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son, don’t waste your life

30 Tuesday Apr 2013

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Proverbs 31: 4-7  “It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink: Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted. Give strong drink [as medicine] to him who is ready to pass away, and wine to him in bitter distress of heart. Let him drink and forget his poverty and [seriously] remember his want and misery no more”. (amplified version)

562567_507019792691922_659591404_nOur Proverbs 31 woman continues to instruct her son the king. I just want to inject a thought: as children of the Most High God, we are sons and daughters of the King; we are royalty. She is advising him that it is not for kings, or princes to drink strong drink.

Verse five tells us why: drinking causes you to forget, or be oblivious of the law. Why? Because it perverts, alters, changes or clouds your judgment towards those who are afflicted, in trouble, those in misery or depressed. The word “law” also means decree; which spiritually can be translated as divine purpose. So getting caught up in this lifestyle will cause you to be oblivious or unaware of your divine purpose.

I really like the Message version for verses 4 & 5: “Leader’s can’t afford to make fools of themselves, gulping wine and swilling beer. Lest hung over, they don’t know right from wrong and the people who depend on them are hurt”.

I just want to inject another thought: there are so many things that can anesthetize any one of us. There’s the obvious: alcohol, illegal and legal drugs. What about TV, internet, social media, gambling, internet gaming, over shopping, over eating, violent movies, pornography? It could be anything that dulls our senses to our calling and divine purpose, and helping those around us.

Bottom line we are to keep our heads about us, we should not get caught up in a lifestyle that dulls our mind or senses. The reason being: to always remember our divine purpose; helping those in need, those who are depending on us.

It’s like our beautiful Proverbs 31 Woman is saying; “son, don’t waste your life on getting drunk; God has something greater in store for you. God wants to do something powerful in and through you. If you drink you’ll lose sight of your divine purpose”.

What must we do?

  • Be the example

Don’t be hypocritical; don’t do what you are telling your children not to do. They will see through that in a heartbeat.

Proverbs 20:7 “The righteous man walks in his integrity; blessed (happy, fortunate, enviable) are his children after him”.

Integrity is the quality of being honest, having strong moral principles; and moral uprightness.

When you lead a life of integrity your children will be blessed and follow right after you. You’re right living will make an easier path for them. Do your kids a favor….live right!

They learn more from watching you than they do by the words of your mouth.

  • Train your children in the ways of the Lord

Proverbs 22:6: “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. Some kids may take a little detour, but the promise of the Lord is they will not depart from what they have been taught.

Teach them who they are in Christ and how to conduct themselves as such.

  • Speak into their life

Don’t be afraid to tell your kids about life. Better they learn from you and the Word of God, than from some buddy of theirs in the school bathroom.

Speak the Word of God and prophesy over them.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this post.

Scriptures to Study:                                                                                            Prov 17:21, Prov 17:25, Prov 19:18, Prov 19:26, Prov 20:1, Prov 20:20, Prov 22:15, Prov 23:13, Prov 23:19-35, Prov 24:3-4, Prov 29:15, Prov 17-18, Eph 6:1-4

Helpful Articles:                                                                               Ten Reasons Kids Leave the Church                                                          Three Huge Mistakes We Make Leading Kids                                                Building Your Child’s Self Esteem  Building Your Child’s Self Esteem Part 2

son, don’t give yourself away

26 Tuesday Apr 2011

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Proverbs 31: 3 “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings”

This is a power packed verse describing how a king or a leader should act and live their life. I know that this verse is talking specifically to men. However, in this day and age we live in a loose and immoral society, so this is something we need to teach our daughters as well.

Our lovely Proverbs 31 mom is giving her son some strong advice: “don’t give your strength to women”. Now, that word “strength” in this verse means: resources, army, wealth, virtue, valor, goods, might, power, riches and substance. The word “women” is referring to loose women, an adulteress, or many women. So our wise mom is saying: “son, don’t give the kingdom away to a woman you have no business being with, or by having affairs with many women. In other words: don’t give your resources, army, wealth, goods, power, or riches away to loose women. And don’t give your way, or your course of life to that which will destroy kings and leaders. Interestingly this word “destroyeth” means to erase, blot out, abolish, ruin, and wipe out.

That is exactly what happens when a leader gets caught up in sexual immorality. How many leaders have been brought to ruin because they lack integrity in this area? I know this is a day and age where society accepts sexual immorality and, sex before marriage, do we dare say these archaic words: fornication and adultery. We should be raising leaders, ambassadors for Christ. We represent the King of Kings and the Lord of Lord’s.  Our sons should be taught to stay away from the loose woman and to not give himself away.   We should teach our daughters to stay away from the man that is willing to give his strength away and more importantly to not be the “loose woman”.

The Bible gives us an example in the story of Samson & Delilah. Samson was a judgeSamson & Delilah for Israel; he was their leader; and the Lord blessed him with great strength. Unfortunately he got caught up with a wrong woman who had silver coins in her eyes.  Delilah enticed Samson to reveal the source of his strength to her. His strength was in his long hair, so Delilah set him up; when he was sleeping the enemy came in and cut his hair. Samson’s strength was gone and he was taken captive, Israel’s leader was brought to ruin, wiped out. You can read the whole story in Judges 16.

I like the Message Bible version of Proverbs 31:3 “Don’t dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women, promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders”. The definition of words can really paint a picture. The word, “dissipate” means: to scatter, squander, waste away, to lead a dissolute life, a life lax in morals. The word, “virility” means: manliness and power of procreation, a man’s seed. In other words our sons should not scatter, or squander their seed. Can I be blunt? Their power of procreation; OK they shouldn’t squander or scatter their sperm on loose women who shipwreck leaders.

I know this is not popular, but we need to teach our children about sexual purity, staying pure until they are married. We are to teach them to avoid ruinous behavior that leads to heartache and pain, possibly destroying lives.

I want to encourage those of you who have young children, be strong and teach them what is right in the sight of the Lord. Teach them to stay pure until they are married.  You can do it; I know you can!

Further scriptures to study: Proverbs 5:3-23, Proverbs 6:24-29 & 32, Proverbs 23: 27-28, Proverbs 29:3

“True Love Waits” is a program that is great for teens regarding the subject of purity.

I recommend the book: “Living Pure Inside and Out”.    http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/

teach your children part 2

09 Saturday Apr 2011

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Proverbs 31:2: “What, my son?  and what, the son of my womb?  and what, the son of my vows?” (KJV)

I love this; it’s like she is getting ready to give it to him, son what end, what good, what purpose; what ARE you thinking???? Ever been there? Then she goes on with “the son of my vows”. Other translations say the son I promised to God, or the son I dedicated to God.  The Message translation says: “Oh son of mine, what can you be thinking of!  Child whom I bore, the son I dedicated to God”.

If you have a moment of freaking out prior to instructing your children, not to worry you are in good company. Our mighty woman of God may have overreacted in this verse, maybe laid on the guilt a bit, or was acting like a drama queen with “the son of my womb” or “the child whom I bore” stint; but she did not continue in that frame of mind.

What I really like about our Proverbs 31 Woman is that she seems to have gotten over it quickly. She doesn’t camp out on freaking out. Instead she pours out her wisdom to her son for the remainder of the chapter.

I want to take a moment to talk about dedicating your children to the Lord. Dedicating your child to the Lord is so special for you and your child. Children are a gift from God; and dedicating your gift back to God is not only showing the Lord that you appreciate His gift to you; but more importantly it is asking God to give you, the grace and wisdom to carry out your responsibilities as a parent. Take a moment and read Deuteronomy 6:4-7. This portion of scripture first, commands the parents to love God. We must be the example to our children. We must love God and it must be evident in our daily life if we truly want our children to follow after and love the Lord.

Here are a couple baby dedications done at Living Faith while we were pastors

Baby Dedications @ Living Faith Brandon & Justine dedicating Above: Alexander July 2012 Below: Evelyn November 2012

Baby Dedications @ Living Faith Brandon & Justine dedicating Above: Alexander July 2012 Below: Evelyn November 2012

Baby Dedication @ Living Faith November 2012 Parents: Michael & Tayleina dedicating Celeste

Baby Dedication @ Living Faith November 2012 Parents: Michael & Tayleina dedicating Celeste

Secondly, in verse 7 we are given a command to teach our children diligently. It is not the responsibility of the schools or Sunday schools to teach your child in the ways of the Lord; it is your responsibility. So many parents leave the educating in the “things of life” to others. Proverbs 22:6 says: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. This is a promise of God, when we do our part and train up our children in the things of the Lord, in morality, kindness and love, we should expect that when they get old they will not depart from what they know is right.

Our beautiful Proverbs 31 woman is a woman of action; knowing you should do something and actually doing it AND doing it diligently are two very different things. In the verses to follow she teaches her son about what kind of woman he is not to get involved with, and then also what kind of woman that he should be looking for to be his helpmeet in life.

I want to encourage you to love God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your might. Be the example your children need; teach them diligently in the ways of the Lord. God gives you this promise: if you do, He will keep your children from departing from it.

teach your children part 1

28 Tuesday Sep 2010

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When my husband Tony and I were pastors, I had the honor of teaching the women in our church a study of the Proverbs 31 Woman. The Lord put on my heart to start blogging about the wonderful treasures that are found in this awesome chapter. So here we go! I truly hope you enjoy this wonderful journey.

Prov 31:1 The words of King Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him. (KJV)

Some scholars believe that King Lemuel was King Solomon. If that were true, then Bathsheba would have been the mother that taught this prophecy. A word study will give us a fuller understanding of the meaning hidden in these verses. “The Words of King Lemuel”, here “words” mean advice, counsel, a decree or commandment, our duty, our work.

“Prophecy” means his mother’s burden, tribute or utterance. The Vines Bible Dictionary explains it as: “a spiritual load or burden that she carried, an utterance or an oracle.

The Webster’s Dictionary defines tribute as a personal testimony to achievements or qualities. Webster’s defines an oracle from a person of outstanding wisdom. So this King’s mother was a woman who lived the life of Proverbs 31 Woman; she was also a woman with outstanding wisdom.

Since the Bible says that it is a prophecy, then we can believe that God gave it to King Lemuel’s mother. This is what she taught him, instructed and corrected him with.  Vine’s describes the teaching as a sense of discipline.

Speaking to your sonThe Message Bible reads this: “the strong advice his mother gave him”.  As mother’s it is our job to speak into our children’s lives. We are to teach them, correct them and instruct them in the ways of the Lord.

Psalm 119:103-104 How sweet are Your words to my taste, 
Sweeter than honey to my mouth! Through Your precepts I get understanding; 
Therefore I hate every false way.

If our words are founded on the Word of God, they will be like honey to our children; they will gain understanding and hate every false way. Mom’s, keep speaking, give strong advice and wise counsel to your children. Speak truth into their lives.  It’s our job, our duty, and our ministry. Don’t ever stop, because the world is feeding them way too many lies.