Proverbs 31: 3 “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings”
This is a power packed verse describing how a king or a leader should act and live their life. I know that this verse is talking specifically to men. However, in this day and age we live in a loose and immoral society, so this is something we need to teach our daughters as well.
Our lovely Proverbs 31 mom is giving her son some strong advice: “don’t give your strength to women”. Now, that word “strength” in this verse means: resources, army, wealth, virtue, valor, goods, might, power, riches and substance. The word “women” is referring to loose women, an adulteress, or many women. So our wise mom is saying: “son, don’t give the kingdom away to a woman you have no business being with, or by having affairs with many women. In other words: don’t give your resources, army, wealth, goods, power, or riches away to loose women. And don’t give your way, or your course of life to that which will destroy kings and leaders. Interestingly this word “destroyeth” means to erase, blot out, abolish, ruin, and wipe out.
That is exactly what happens when a leader gets caught up in sexual immorality. How many leaders have been brought to ruin because they lack integrity in this area? I know this is a day and age where society accepts sexual immorality and, sex before marriage, do we dare say these archaic words: fornication and adultery. We should be raising leaders, ambassadors for Christ. We represent the King of Kings and the Lord of Lord’s. Our sons should be taught to stay away from the loose woman and to not give himself away. We should teach our daughters to stay away from the man that is willing to give his strength away and more importantly to not be the “loose woman”.
The Bible gives us an example in the story of Samson & Delilah. Samson was a judge for Israel; he was their leader; and the Lord blessed him with great strength. Unfortunately he got caught up with a wrong woman who had silver coins in her eyes. Delilah enticed Samson to reveal the source of his strength to her. His strength was in his long hair, so Delilah set him up; when he was sleeping the enemy came in and cut his hair. Samson’s strength was gone and he was taken captive, Israel’s leader was brought to ruin, wiped out. You can read the whole story in Judges 16.
I like the Message Bible version of Proverbs 31:3 “Don’t dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women, promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders”. The definition of words can really paint a picture. The word, “dissipate” means: to scatter, squander, waste away, to lead a dissolute life, a life lax in morals. The word, “virility” means: manliness and power of procreation, a man’s seed. In other words our sons should not scatter, or squander their seed. Can I be blunt? Their power of procreation; OK they shouldn’t squander or scatter their sperm on loose women who shipwreck leaders.
I know this is not popular, but we need to teach our children about sexual purity, staying pure until they are married. We are to teach them to avoid ruinous behavior that leads to heartache and pain, possibly destroying lives.
I want to encourage those of you who have young children, be strong and teach them what is right in the sight of the Lord. Teach them to stay pure until they are married. You can do it; I know you can!
“True Love Waits” is a program that is great for teens regarding the subject of purity.
I recommend the book: “Living Pure Inside and Out”. http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/